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Emotional Wellness | The Perfect Gift for Your Child


Emotional Wellness | The Perfect Gift for Your Child


Are you starting to think about your Christmas shopping list? If toys and other material things made it to the top of your list, ask yourself. Are these the best gifts that you can give them? There is no question that your children will jump with joy, their eyes lighting up, as soon as they open their gifts under the tree. Soon after the initial thrill wanes, all these will just be a part of the clutter in the house later. If enriching their lives is a goal, think of being more creative this Christmas.


There are many alternatives. One of the best gifts you can give your child is an assessment of their emotional health.


What’s in it for the little one?

Your child’s health does not fall second to anything. It is the single most important facet of their lives. Providing them their physical needs – a healthy diet, appropriate clothes for the weather, and sleep at a reasonable time – may not always be easy, considering that not every parent has what it takes to support a child. You and most parents, however, deliver those needs without question, being instinctively recognized. If there is anything that many parents don’t readily recognize, these are the needs for sound emotional health.

Their emotional health is the other half of their physical health. Sound emotional health allows for the proper development of emotional and social competencies that start from birth to adulthood. These skills can significantly bolster a child’s ability to be self-assured, empathic, rational, and interactive, giving them a fair chance to succeed in life. This is how their emotional health can impact the general quality of their lives.  


Is your child emotionally healthy?

Emotionally healthy children are not always happy. Like any typical youngster, they may experience ups and downs. What an emotionally healthy child has is the ability to regulate their emotions, thoughts and their behavior or manifestations. Their emotional and social skills empower him/her to sail through their challenges without being short-changed or overly distressed, and while maintaining a healthy attitude and good relationship with others.

If your child’s emotional health is in good condition, it means that he/she has developed their emotional and social skills. So, they can communicate their feelings well, monitor their physical and behavioral reactions, and stay hopeful and flexible despite unhappy events in life. They can also feel for others and take care of them as they do for themselves. Their positive outlook helps them view life and the various issues with pessimism without becoming overwhelmed.


What can build a child’s emotional skills?

“Life is not a bed of roses.” No matter how much you try, you cannot buffer your child from every difficulty in his/her life. Though the “thorns” can pierce their skin, they can leave scars of worthy experiences and learnings. Processed well because your child is emotionally healthy, or with the help of a behavioral health professional, these experiences and learnings can help build a child’s emotional and social skills. These are also the skills that will form the foundation of their character and emotional health. Thus, early challenges are not necessarily unproductive.

There are emotional upsets that can help build a child’s emotional health. For instance, infants as young as eight months old can already show signs of anxiety when separated from the primary caregiver. Separation anxiety may come back as the toddler first enters school. Growing up, the long hours of school and increasing tasks can wreak havoc on their emotional health. Along with the unprecedented and fast-paced physical, neural and hormonal changes, and increasing social and academic pressures, teens possess the perfect “recipe” for mood issues.


What happens when a child’s emotional skills are not well developed?

When a child’s emotional needs are not readily recognized, they may not adequately develop the skills they need to regulate their emotions and their social experiences. Minus the support that they need, your child can become vulnerable to a variety of emotional conditions (anxiety and depression), behavioral problems, poor self-esteem, tendency to self-harm, poor performance in school and sports, and maybe even substance abuse toward their adolescence.

Supporting your child’s emotional wellness is a priceless gift. It can influence a child’s healthy self-perception of oneself. This can be the start of developing a fitting attitude toward others and their challenges. It helps that you are familiar with the red flags to seek the right kind of assistance when needed. The symptoms of emotional and behavioral conditions cannot be outgrown. It is so defeating to watch your child struggling with the symptoms and missing out on so many great opportunities. Recognize the alarming signs and seek help from a capable professional.


What are the red flags to spot?

Recognizing the state of a child’s emotional wellness, their needs and the symptoms of an emotional or behavioral condition is not easy. The younger a child is the poorer is his/her ability to verbally communicate their feelings and thoughts. It is also easy to misconstrue their behavior. They can be naturally boisterous, so it is be possible to misread feistiness and defiance for ODD, and hyperactivity and inattentiveness for ADHD. Conversely, innate shyness can be mistaken as a sign of sadness or depression.

The alarming signs and symptoms can also be exhibited in the form of physical complaints – stomach aches, headaches, etc. If these are affecting their everyday life and school, trivializing it can be a big mistake. Other telltale signs that your child’s emotional health could be taking a downward spin are sleeplessness, social withdrawal, slipping school grades, frequent crying at the slightest provocation, and refusal to go to school or participate in activities. If they often express their anger and frustration in outbursts and tantrums, they may not be emotionally healthy.

Anything out of the ordinary must be given attention. This could be your child’s way of telling you that he/she is not okay. This could be a red flag that you need to spot for a prompt assessment, diagnosis and treatment.


How can you help enhance the little one’s emotional skills?

Childhood and the teenage years are times of great changes, confusion and “growing pains.” Challenges will come one after the other – that’s what life is all about after all. You cannot push away each challenge or coddle them forever. At some point, they must become independent. This is the best time to prepare them for all the challenges ahead. Remember that each experience is wonderful, even when it can be painful. Let them process the experience. Help them with the process, better yet, provide them the help of a trustworthy expert – a caring counselor/therapist independently contracted with Carolina Counseling Services – Cameron, NC, on Hwy 87, near Linden Oaks.

Your child may need help because there are emotions that are not easy to understand for a young mind. They also need guidance because the feeling can be powerful and overwhelming, scary and confusing, agonizingly painful and devastating. If you feel alone, helpless and you can’t seem to understand what’s happening to your child, we can assist you. This Christmas as a much-needed addition to the material gifts, give them the opportunity to improve their emotional health. Your child’s emotional wellness and future happiness and successes could depend on it. Call CCS – Cameron, NC, on Hwy 87, near Linden Oaks today!

Serving Areas: Carolina Counseling Services – Cameron, NC

Counties: Harnett County

Areas: Cameron NC, Linden Oaks NC, Sprout Springs NC, Anderson Creek NC, Olivia NC, Pineview NC, Johnsonville NC, Spring Lake NC

Zip Codes: 28326, 28327, 27332, 28394

Rose Thomas, MA, LPC, LCAS, NCC

Specializes in: (Ages 5+) Children, Teens, Individuals, Couples and Families. Anxiety, Depression, ODD (Oppositional Defiance Disorder, ADHD, Relationship Issues, Marriage Counseling, Parenting, PTSD/Trauma Recovery, Acute Stress Disorder, Adult Sexual Abuse Survivors, Adjustment Disorders, Depressive Disorders, Persistent Depressive Disorder, Bipolar and Related Disorders, Self-injurious/Self-Harm, Generalized Anxiety Disorder, Panic Disorder, Agoraphobia, Separation Anxiety, Disruptive Disorders, Conduct Disorder, Marital Conflict and Discord, LGBT, Substance Use Disorders
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Specializes in: (Ages 4+) Children, Individuals, families, PTSD, Trauma, Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) Adjustment Disorder, ADHD, Depression, Anxiety, communication skills, and Parenting Skills, Behavior Management, Life transitions, Family Conflict, Difficulty Coping, Relationship Problems, Depression, Anxiety

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Shirlisa Daniels, MS, LPC, NCC

Specializes in: (Ages 4+) Children, Teens, Adults and Individuals, Families, Anxiety Disorders, Depression, Panic Disorder, Bipolar Disorder, ADHD, ODD, PTSD, Relationship Issues, Conflict Resolution and Life Transitions
Insurance: BCBS, Tricare, Cash (credit cards accepted)
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