Back to homepage

Counseling: Putting Grief to Rest and Moving On

Grief Counseling

 

Counseling: Putting Grief to Rest and Moving On

 

Change is constant. All things in life—your health, opportunities, relationships, and the people around you— are temporary. Nobody is spared from loss. At any time, you could experience the death of a loved one, a diagnosis of failing health, the collapse of a business, or the loss of a job. With a loss, grief is natural, but you have the ability to adjust, heal, and move on.

Unfortunately, not every loss is the same. Some losses may cause you greater pain, especially the passing of a loved one, making bouncing back too difficult. An emotional condition such as anxiety or depression may also complicate your grief or impair your ability to adjust. Other issues, such as divorce, a chronic medical disorder, or the sickness of a loved one, can also overwhelm you and complicate your grief.

When one of these happens to you, stay optimistic. There is a way to put grief to rest—seek counseling.

 

Gripping Grief

Loss and grief are natural human experiences. You may have had losses in the past that made you feel confident that you could bounce back, but why does it feel like a dagger is thrust in your heart? Is it natural to lose interest in your job or passion for your hobbies after a devastating loss? Why are others who suffered similarly recovering so well?

The loss of a pet may not mean much to other people, but if your pet served as your companion for years, it is natural to grieve after its death. The loss of an unchallenging job may be viewed by others as something that should not deeply affect you, but it could be the last straw in a series of trials affecting your self-esteem. The end of an unhappy relationship could be thought of as a blessing, but it can be more complicated when there are suffering children.

Your grief is your own. It is a personal matter, and so is the process of recovering from it or accepting the loss and adjusting to it. This means you will express the pain in your own unique way and you will bounce back in your own time. Experiencing the pain longer can be your way of adjusting to the loss. However, if it is preventing you from living a productive life, you need to do something about it, such as seeking help from a counselor.

 

The Telltale Signs to Watch Out For

The passing away of a loved one can be too much for you. Weighed down with pain, you may lose interest in everything else, including seeking help. When you slip deeply into grief, it makes you vulnerable to depression. It is valuable to recognize the signs that your grief is not waning and that it is deeply affecting your functioning.

How can you tell that your grief is turning into complicated grief? According to Helpguide, some signs that grief can’t be laid to rest soon are:

  • Intense longing and yearning for the deceased
  • Intrusive thoughts or images of your loved one
  • Denial of the death or sense of disbelief
  • Imagining that your loved one is alive
  • Searching for the person in familiar places
  • Avoiding things that remind you of your loved one
  • Extreme anger or bitterness over the loss
  • Feeling that life is empty or meaningless

 

Be vigilant when these signs take a worse turn. Not only will the intense pain persist, it can also breed other disruptive behaviors, such as cynicism, indifference, social withdrawal, gloom, and fixation on loss.

 

When Grief Rules

Grief, particularly the complicated type, can impact your life in many ways. It can affect your health as you suffer from insomnia or lose your appetite. You may lose interest in completing day-to-day tasks. You may prefer solitude and avoid interacting with your family, friends, and coworkers. You may opt to forgo hobbies and activities that you were passionate about.

While grief may not dissipate as soon as you hope it will, it should not become the core of your life and existence. When it becomes persistent, it can quash your aspirations. You may avoid people and opportunities, and become susceptible to depression.

With counseling, it is possible to stay hopeful and to continue living a fulfilling life, even when you’re nursing an aching heart. Don’t let grief or any roadblock deter you from seeking help.

 

Giving Grief a Rest

Grief and loss are part of living and loving. They are devastating emotions that can overwhelm you and your ability to accept and adjust to the loss. Time usually dulls the pain; if the feeling remains overpowering for too long, you need to act. When your grief is the complicated type, counseling can help. It is proactive to help yourself with the guidance and assistance of an expert—an independent counselor contracted with Carolina Counseling Services — Cameron, NC.

The pain of complicated grief can prevent you from seeing that you have so much more to live for: other loved ones, a promising career, studies, etc. You may not realize it at this time, but there is a way to transform your grief so it won’t weigh you down. An independently contracted therapist with Carolina Counseling Services — Cameron, NC, on Hwy 87, near Linden Oaks can help you transform your emotional baggage into hope and guide you through the process. Lift the cloud of despair looming over your life. Call CCS for your first appointment. A caring counselor can work with you and help you move on with hope.


Serving Areas: Carolina Counseling Services

Counties: Harnett County

Areas: Cameron NC, Linden Oaks NC, Sprout Springs NC, Anderson Creek NC, Olivia NC, Pineview NC, Johnsonville NC, Spring Lake NC

Zip Codes: 28326, 28327, 27332, 28394

Rose Thomas, MA, LPC, LCAS, NCC

Specializes in: (Ages 5+) Children, Teens, Individuals, Couples and Families. Anxiety, Depression, ODD (Oppositional Defiance Disorder, ADHD, Relationship Issues, Marriage Counseling, Parenting, PTSD/Trauma Recovery, Acute Stress Disorder, Adult Sexual Abuse Survivors, Adjustment Disorders, Depressive Disorders, Persistent Depressive Disorder, Bipolar and Related Disorders, Self-injurious/Self-Harm, Generalized Anxiety Disorder, Panic Disorder, Agoraphobia, Separation Anxiety, Disruptive Disorders, Conduct Disorder, Marital Conflict and Discord, LGBT, Substance Use Disorders
 Insurance: BCBS, Tricare, Tricare Prime, Tricare Standard, Extra, Retired, Cash, HSA and FSA accepted (credit cards accepted)
 Credit Cards: Visa, Mastercard, Discover and American Express

Fetima Wellington, MS, LPC, LCAS-A

Specializes in: (Ages 6+) Children, Adolescents/Teens, Individuals, Couples, Family Therapy and Marriage Counseling. Anxiety, Depression, Bi-Polar Disorder, Addiction and Recovery, Relationship Issues, Post Partum Depression, Family Conflict, Crisis Intervention, ODD, Conduct Disorder, LGBTQ
 Insurance: BCBS, Cash, HSA and FSA accepted (credit cards accepted)
 Credit Cards: Visa, Mastercard, Discover and American Express

 

Brittny Gainey, MSW, LCSW

Specializes in: (Ages 5+) Children, Teens, Individuals, Couples, Families. Anxiety, Depression, Academic/Behavioral Issues, ODD (Oppositional Defiance Disorder), ADHD, Relationship Issues, Marriage Counseling, Parenting, Trauma, Christian Counseling upon request
 Insurance:

BCBS, Medicare, Tricare, Tricare Prime/Standard, NCHC, and Cash
(credit cards accepted)

 Credit Cards:

Visa, Mastercard, Discover and American Express

 

 
Specializes in: (Ages 4+) Children, Individuals, families, PTSD, Trauma, Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) Adjustment Disorder, ADHD, Depression, Anxiety, communication skills, and Parenting Skills, Aggression, Behavior Management, Life transitions, Family Conflict, Difficulty Coping, Relationship Problems, Depression, Anxiety

InsuranceBCBSTricare, Cash, HSA and FSA accepted and Apple Pay
 
Credit cards:  

 

How Do I Set Up my FIRST Appointment?

  • Call: (910) 722-9008 (Fastest way to schedule)
  • Text: (910) 308-3291 (Reply will be via phone)
  • Click here and use our Contact Form (You must include your phone number, because replies will only be made by telephone to ensure security/privacy)
  • Call or Text for your New Patient Appointment Anytime!
  • Appointment scheduling for NEW clients: Mon-Fri 8:30am-5:15pm
  • New client appts may be scheduled when therapists have openings, which may include daytime, evenings and weekends.
  • Established/Standing Appointments are made directly with your therapist!
  • Referrals: MOST beneficiaries do NOT need a Referral!
Carolina Counseling Services - Cameron, NC
35 Plantation Drive, Suite 100B and 100C
Cameron, NC 28326

Other Contact Info

If you have a compliment, concern or comments please contact:

Contact Management:
click here

If you need to speak specifically to the owner
Click here and use our Contact Form